Hello! So, as you know, this site is a very pointed hub for TBDL related things. My main goal with writing these pieces is so that the community has a resource and a nexus of information free to them! So recently, I took a look at our site statistics page, and I found out that we can actually see what google searches people use to go to our website. So today’s post is going to address some of the searches that people have used to find and view our site!
“My Child Is A TBDL”
Seeing this one felt good, really. Seeing this means a parent has bothered to do research and look it up and search for information. That’s a good sign, and I love parents who do this. If your child has come to you and said they’re a TBDL, the best thing you can do is pay attention to them and what they say. Being a TBDL isn’t something you change or erase, it’s part of someone’s identity and it’s wrong to deny someone that. It’s nothing bad, it’s nothing horrible, it’s nothing evil. The worst part about being a TBDL is that it’s kind of expensive. (I’m not joking.) So, your child has come to you saying they’re a TBDL, just listen to them, let them be themselves, your safest bet is to help them explore this and limit it to their own time. Especially if you don’t want to take part in it. Just because you don’t like something, doesn’t mean your child should miss out.
“How to tell parents”
This one gets me too, I love this sentence, because it means that you’re willing to show who you are and be yourself. The best way to tell your parents is an honest sit down with them. Get them at a good time. Make them feel better after a long day and then talk to them. It makes them more likely to listen and remain calm. Chances are, your parents won’t understand, and that’s fine! Let them understand. Bring them to this blog and let them read through. It’s hard and it’s confusing, but teach them what it is and why it’s okay.
“Is TBDL Normal?”
Yes. Of course it is! The human brain works in strange ways that make almost no sense. It may seem like being a TBDL is the end of the world and that you’re a mistake for thinking these thoughts and feeling these emotions but that’s not the case. Being a TBDL or an ABDL is perfectly normal and fine and you shouldn’t beat yourself up about it, ever. It’s a perfectly normal thing, and if it wasn’t, there wouldn’t be a blog for it, would there?
“Why do I enjoy TBDL?”
Honestly? I don’t know. I couldn’t tell you. It’s different from person to person. For me, it was a lack of a real relationship with my parents. For others it’s a way to relieve stress, for some it’s a fun thing to do to pass the time. It’s different for everyone and there’s no real right or wrong reason to be a TBDL. But if you enjoy it, then enjoy it. Don’t let someone else tell you that you can’t.
“How do I Get rid of TBDL?” or “Treatment for TBDL”
Here’s the truth. There’s no treatment for being a TBDL, no magic pill that gets rid of it and no mystical spa day that makes you all better. Because there’s nothing wrong with you. Nothing to fix, nothing to get rid of. Being a TBDL is perfectly normal and you should embrace it and be happy with it. Don’t ever feel upset at who you are. Being a TBDL is part of you, and that’s fine! you don’t need to get rid of it and it doesn’t need to be treated.
I really hope this helps some of you, as a community, we need to keep together and remind ourselves that who we are is okay. SO don’t forget you can contact me any time through the Contact Page and that I am always here for all of you.