Unfortunately, for all good things, there are going to be those that go against it, who try to pull you down and spread their hate amongst those that don’t know nor understand the community. We do our best to help everyone understand what TBDL and ABDL is but we are usually met with the same erroneous, and quite ignorant, responses. We know that as a TBDL you will encounter the same hate and ignorance in your own life, both irl and online. So if you don’t know how to combat those responses or are confused, let’s list the usual hate-filled phrases and how to combat them in a way that might gain you some understanding.
Its important to remember that no matter what you argue about, somebody is going to get angry about what was said, it’s important that you do your best to hide your anger. Your opponent will do his/her best to force you into getting angry and therefore saying something you might regret.
Example 1: “ABDL/TBDL is pedophilia and wrong. Who would ever get off on being a baby?”
Pedophilia is the act of an adult doing a wrongful sexual act against a child, so obviously, TBDL can’t be Pedophilia if it is between two people of the same age, i.e., two 15 year olds engaging in a TBDL relationship can’t be pedophilia. Also, Teen Babies usually have a non-sexual relationship with their caregivers. Teen Babies want to be Babies again, for just a short while, so therefore, for that period of time they will give up sexual relations and acts with their partner. So to call something pedophilia when it has nothing to do with an adult and usually doesn’t even end in sex is quite, for lack of a better word, ignorant.
Example 2: “Diapers are disgusting and are only for the old and young. How could you be attracted to something like that?”
As we can accurately see from TBDL/ABDL, what’s disgusting to one person is absolutely normal to another. There are many different things that excite people sexually such as Emetophilia, or Eproctophilia (the sexual attractions to vomiting and flatulance). So long as these interests do not hurt the person practising them and they don’t hurt anyone else, then it isn’t any of your business.
To declare diapers something for the old and the young is forgetting and insulting the millions that need diapers. There are adult bedwetters and plenty of teen bedwetters as well, there is nothing wrong with needing diapers outside of infancy and elderly age.
Diapers are diapers, if you’ve never worn one, take it from somebody who has and enjoys it, it is soft and comfortable (the ones worth buying are, at least). Even if you aren’t sexually attracted to them, diapers are so much softer than boxers or panties. To those that are sexually attracted to them, remember that you are pressed against the front of the diaper which might excite some. Wetting also emits a bit of warmth against yourself which is stimulating to some and messing gives off a feeling of naughtiness which, for some people, is very pleasurable.
For many, however, diapers are an object of comfort rather than a sex object, the act of wetting and messing doesn’t necessarily have to be sexual either, rather, it can be seen as a way to be relaxed without having to worry about the “Big” Things in life like running to the bathroom after a 4 hour road trip.
Example 3: “TBDL/ABDL is a mental disorder and should be treated as such.”
A disorder is an abnormal condition that causes a person to have problems with day to day life and may or may not harm the person, and, if left untreated, can result in irreversible damage or death. One such disorder is the eating disorder Anorexia Nervosa. Someone with Anorexia finds themselves horribly overweight, perhaps with real reason to believe such a thing, and then takes steps to lose weight, such as excessive exercise and starving themselves. This can lead to nerve damage, cardiovascular issues and problems regarding their ability to lose weight later on in life; it might even lead to death.
Paraphiliac Infantilism, or Adult Baby Syndrome, has not been studied to the same lengths as Anorexia, which is a blessing, and has not been classified by the APA as a disorder at all. Diapers and Age Regression hasn’t affected anyone’s physical health ever (not including UTIs or rashes, which are a result of poor hygiene). And in terms of emotional and mental health, those who accept themselves and partake in said activities are actually having a better response to day to day life and have a more positive behavior than they did before. It almost seems that accepting and partaking in this part of you is actually beneficial to your emotional and mental health.
I say that it’s a blessing that we haven’t received much time or research on simply because if our behavior was life-threatening or harmful to ourselves or others, well, then I’m sure we would be having much more notoriety than we currently do. But seeing as it isn’t, researchers have thoughts on ABDL/TBDL on the back-burner.
We try our hardest to educate the people who don’t know and don’t understand what is going on in this community. We can grasp why people hate TBDLs but it is our duty to inform and educate them that these fears of our community aren’t based on any truths. These biased remarks and hatred is not helpful at all and holds no truth whatsoever.
Will we ever find acceptance by the greater population?
Unfortunately the hate is not due to stop for a while. It won’t stop until education on this topic broadens and the capacity for understanding outweighs the fear and disgust.
The only way to do this is to prove that we aren’t what they say we are. We aren’t degenerates, we aren’t disgusting, we aren’t stupid, crazy or anything else that they say we are. We are human and are no less as important than them. What we do in our own privacy, in our own homes by ourselves or with our partners is our business, not theirs.
I stress this because I know that there are people that need to hear this. That need to hear that they aren’t alone and they aren’t any one of the things that were stated before.
You are perfect just the way you are. Even if you can’t see it now, and believe me, this just adds to your beauty.